The pillars of NLP
In the NLP Workbook: A Practical Guide to Achieving the Results You Want, author Joseph O’Connor continues his introduction to neuro linguistic programming by setting six fundamental pillars. Understanding and applying them is necessary to move on.
1. You
You have to take responsibility, in the sense of response-ability. If the result is poor, that is because you are not sufficiently skilled. This skill is achieved with experience putting knowledge and action together in congruence. Congruence is an important NLP concept: what you say and do is aligned with your vision of the world, your values and goals.
2. Pressupositions
Pressupositions are the principles of NLP, useful ideas to achieve a certain purpose that are taken for granted.
3. Rapport
Rapport is the relational quality of a connection between two communicating individuals. It is said that “good rapport” can be noticed when a sense of ease and trust with each other can be felt and dialog flows smoothly. There are many techniques to establish rapport, which are explored in other sections. But one core action is to understand the associations for meaning of the person you are talking to. Only this way you can speak his language.
4. Outcome
I want to be rich. I want to be famous. These may be wishful thinking, a different category from a well formed outcome. To start with any change, NLP requires that a clear outcome is defined. It is important to know where you are, where you want to be, when, which resources you immediately have and which ones you will get, your deadline and how you will measure your success.
5. Feedback
You have to be an empirical scientist. Everything you do, all the results you get, you have to keep track of everything. This is your feedback. This is how you know you are advancing towards your outcomes. Use your senses (see, touch, hear, taste, smell) to get the feedback.
6. Flexibility
Richard Bandler and John Grinder, authors of Frogs into Princes, have identified that successful people were exceedingly flexible in their approaches and never let their past thinking lock them into a pattern of failure. As you get feedback and notice that your choices are not bringing you closer to your outcome, it is time to try different approaches.
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