As an unfolding of pressuposition 4, we are resourceful people. Maybe we can be temporarily in a state of mind that does not help much, but this can be changed.

10. Mind and body form a system. They are different expressions of one person.

This one is key to using NLP for better relationships. Think of the last time you and your friends were in the car driving to a party, banging your heads, shaking your shoulders and arms to the rhythm of your favourite music. Can be a classic rock n’roll, a cheesy Hed Kandi house hit of the season or anything else that puts you into state.

Now with this song in your mind, do exactly the same movements you did in the car. Shake your bones. Don’t worry, nobody is watching.

If you followed this simple exercise you noticed that with these movements of your body your mental state has also changed. Perhaps even your breathing and heart beats have got accelerated as well.

Point being, the mind and the body are two entities of a single unity: you. When we want to promote changes in our mind, we can use our body and the other way round is also true. Thinking differently will make our body respond differently.

This can be used make yourself more relaxed and less analytical. Very useful to deal with approach anxiety. We will discuss more on the practical uses later.

Something that derives from this pressuposition that is also equally important is that by being a good observer of the body you can be able to read which mental state the other person is probably in. This is a powerful tool for communication.

Tyler has an excellent article describing how women can be in lockup or unlocked states. Not only you should be able to notice this according to the blowoff answers she gives, but also by her facial expression and body language, which reflect her mental state.

11. We process information through our senses

Thus, to get “superpowers” it is important to develop our senses. The more precise they are the better information will be processed by us.

12. Modelling successful performance leads to excellence

This is one of the reasons that From Victor With Love goes into the minimal details of the reviewed products of the selected Mentors.

Remember pressupositions 4 and 9: you work perfectly and you have all the resources. You can learn from successful models and replicate the success and get better results. For that, it is important to understand that each person is different (remember the fly vision example?). As your map is different from the map from your Mentor, you should not try to clone him. You can get some results, but these will not be optimized to your reality.

Instead, it is important to examine why each of these models are successful and then, understanding the underlying reasons, adapt and incorporate their patterns into your personality so you can organically improve your own maps of reality. Learn from your Mentors, but do not copy-paste what they do.

Just to illustrate, I’ve seen some friends trying to use Mystery Method in telling, word by word, the same DHV (demonstrations of higher value) stories… from Mystery! I know one guy who completely stole the story of the stripper girlfriend who was chased by Biff-from-Back-to-the-Future bullies that Mystery tells in one of his seminars. Sometimes some girls fall into it, because it is indeed a story with lots of emotional spikes and DHVs. But I am sure that deep inside he does not feel proud of telling a story he stole from someone else. And for the good observer, it looks incongruent in some points, no matter how good his delivery is.

The punch line is: adapt the methods to your character and life experiences. You can borrow some lines as a training wheel for some time. But do not become a social robot.

13. If you want to understand, act

This is what you have seen many times before. Do not become a seminar junkie! Just trying to understand all this without practicing, as Tyler says, is like reading a book on lifting weights and never actually lifting weights!

The other opposite is also true. If you just do things without having absolutely no theory from some Mentor or a good ability to examine your actions, take feedback and be flexible with different approaches (and then creating your own theories), you will hardly progress.

The balance is in between. Get the knowledge. Apply it. Go experiment. It does not matter if you do not get it right on the first times. It is not failure; it is feedback to calibrate your knowledge into applied practice. Just do it.
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Stories

Mehow is a results-oriented pick up artist. He does agree that storytelling in the classic Mystery Method can be used for attraction, through DHVs – Demonstrations of Higher Value, which shall be embedded in the story (and not the central piece of the story) to subcommunicate the attractive qualities. But he knows that the nightlife has way too many distracters. Unless you make a very powerful first impression with your looks or something really unconventional, she can easily divert her attention to something else.

Bad storytelling: Once upon a time there were three little pigs, so I ate them. End of story. Now Go to sleep.

Get the Girl! is not a material to be used to improve skills in storytelling. The section on stories is relatively short to additional material is necessary in case you are not a good storyteller. Mehow keeps it simple by providing three points of good stories:

• do not use an attractive quality as the main theme
• instead, the attractive qualities shall be discretely added in the story
• lots of different strong emotions such as love, hatred, humor, suspense

Future and Past Projections

Future and Past Adventures

Note that the length of the routine shall be adequate to the level of attention and distractions that you will have. A loud club with lots of acquaintances appearing from time to time is not a place for a long story as it is likely to be interrupted. A short routine should be used in such cases, such as the “Paris Hilton Chihuahua Carrier”

Pure Kino™

This is the patent-pending technology of Mehow. It’s worth being explored separately in a new post.

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