Mehow is clear and direct:

Before we can get the girl to love us, she has to spend some time with us.

I will complement and illustrate this idea by telling one of many frustrated experiences I had in the past.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that at a certain point in the interaction, you just have to isolate. Many times you will forget this, and your chances of getting the girl will be reduced.

I remember once I was in Switzerland walking by the lake and met a group of three beautiful French girls sitting and chatting after doing some shopping. I came by very naturally and my opener was short and simple: “Bonjour!”

They replied back good morning very politely. Then I ran the most absurd line as possible: “Le chien veut manger le boeuf” (The dog wants to eat beef). They just stared at me completely puzzled. I waited two seconds of suspense and continued saying that I was just practicing my French. The tension was broken into some smiles and then I sat, locking into the set, as Mehow would say.

What is important about this experience is that I spent half an hour talking to these French ladies. And did no isolation, which was my fatal mistake.

Danielle was my favorite girl. This suntanned brunette had a charming smile and sparking eyes radiating happiness. I could sense her positive energy from a mile of distance. She was sending lots of indications of interest, being very talkative, asking personal questions, touching her hair… and our eye contact was inviting, to say the least.

All you need is isolation. Create the magical bubble between the two of you to move for the Comfort phase.

We did not engage in the intimate conversation necessary to move ahead into comfort. They had to catch their train and I had to go back home. We never saw each other again.

“Back to me”, I hear Mehow saying…

So, how is isolation done?

Mehow does not enter into detail in this section. There is just one explanation for that: it is simple. Just do it.

In my situation above, I could just tease Danielle saying “You’re great and I have to talk to you for a second. Will you guys allow us to talk for one minute over there?”

As I already opened the whole group subcommunicating my attractive qualities, I can say that with 95% of chances they would say yes. It would not be an obstacle.

One valuable tip from Get the Girl! is that to talk to the woman long enough to have a solid phone number, say at least 30 minutes, you need to “lock in”, which means sitting comfortably or leaning against a wall. Anywhere you can be comfortable.

This should be simple and it is so important. Write me with your experiences if you have difficulty doing the isolation. I will be pleased to give you any assistance to you.

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The large majority of pickup theories agree in one point: comfort is the most important phase of the attraction. That’s also what common sense tells us, and that is why the average guy approaches the girl trying to immediately get rapport with the lines “hi, how are you?”, “what do you like to do on the weekends” and so on.

What is wrong in these examples?

Maybe if your are Brad Pitt you can start with rapport… otherwise, pay attention to the order of things: first the opening, then the attraction and finally isolate to build comfort

The opening, attraction and isolation phases are necessary, even they may look weird. They are useful in allowing your entry to the comfort stage.

According to Mystery (and seconded by Mehow) the ideal comfort phase lasts from 4 to 10 hours. It is possible to accelerate this, by doing hypnosis, NLP commands or using other strategies, such as RSD’s Shock and Awe, all of which will be soon explored in detail here.

However, one word of warning: first, it is important that you learn how to do the regular 4 to 10 hour comfort. Only then you will be ready to use accelerators when appropriate. I personally do NOT recommend it.

The reason is that I know many people who used accelerators and almost all of them relate that they felt bad, heavily depressed and did not have any satisfaction. They report that on the day after, the women feel guilty about having intimacy with someone they did not have comfort with. Obviously this hardly leads to a healthy relationship. So they start to avoid seeing each other.

So what is the comfort phase about?

Well, it is where you finally get to know her!

Have you ever heard the expression “social mask”? The social mask is used in different contexts. In the family circle, we use one, which is different from the social mask at the office, which is different from the social mask at the gym and so on.

In the nightlife, even when having fun, that gorgeous girl can be wearing the “I’m a bitch and I just came here to dance” social mask. This does not mean at all she is a cold insensible party girl. That is not her – it is her social mask!

Understand that this is just a social mask, and that she is probably a lovely person to get to know. But you have to be able to do the comfort stage properly. The next posts will explore how Mehow recommends doing it.

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