From Victor With Love

The Importance and Use of Isolation in the Comfort Phase

Mehow is clear and direct:

Before we can get the girl to love us, she has to spend some time with us.

I will complement and illustrate this idea by telling one of many frustrated experiences I had in the past.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that at a certain point in the interaction, you just have to isolate. Many times you will forget this, and your chances of getting the girl will be reduced.

I remember once I was in Switzerland walking by the lake and met a group of three beautiful French girls sitting and chatting after doing some shopping. I came by very naturally and my opener was short and simple: “Bonjour!”

They replied back good morning very politely. Then I ran the most absurd line as possible: “Le chien veut manger le boeuf” (The dog wants to eat beef). They just stared at me completely puzzled. I waited two seconds of suspense and continued saying that I was just practicing my French. The tension was broken into some smiles and then I sat, locking into the set, as Mehow would say.

What is important about this experience is that I spent half an hour talking to these French ladies. And did no isolation, which was my fatal mistake.

Danielle was my favorite girl. This suntanned brunette had a charming smile and sparking eyes radiating happiness. I could sense her positive energy from a mile of distance. She was sending lots of indications of interest, being very talkative, asking personal questions, touching her hair… and our eye contact was inviting, to say the least.

However, we were all sitting down together in a circle. As I did not have the initiative to isolate Danielle, I was naturally stuck to interacting with all the three girls. Which was okay in the initial moments, but then the conversation dynamics did not allow me to give her the right attention.

We did not engage in the intimate conversation necessary to move ahead into comfort. They had to catch their train and I had to go back home. We never saw each other again.

“Back to me”, I hear Mehow saying…

So, how is isolation done?

Mehow does not enter into detail in this section. There is just one explanation for that: it is simple. Just do it.

In my situation above, I could just tease Danielle saying “You’re great and I have to talk to you for a second. Will you guys allow us to talk for one minute over there?”

As I already opened the whole group subcommunicating my attractive qualities, I can say that with 95% of chances they would say yes. It would not be an obstacle.

One valuable tip from Get the Girl! is that to talk to the woman long enough to have a solid phone number, say at least 30 minutes, you need to “lock in”, which means sitting comfortably or leaning against a wall. Anywhere you can be comfortable.

This should be simple and it is so important. Write me with your experiences if you have difficulty doing the isolation. I will be pleased to give you any assistance to you.

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