Mehow is clear and direct:

Before we can get the girl to love us, she has to spend some time with us.

I will complement and illustrate this idea by telling one of many frustrated experiences I had in the past.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that at a certain point in the interaction, you just have to isolate. Many times you will forget this, and your chances of getting the girl will be reduced.

I remember once I was in Switzerland walking by the lake and met a group of three beautiful French girls sitting and chatting after doing some shopping. I came by very naturally and my opener was short and simple: “Bonjour!”

They replied back good morning very politely. Then I ran the most absurd line as possible: “Le chien veut manger le boeuf” (The dog wants to eat beef). They just stared at me completely puzzled. I waited two seconds of suspense and continued saying that I was just practicing my French. The tension was broken into some smiles and then I sat, locking into the set, as Mehow would say.

What is important about this experience is that I spent half an hour talking to these French ladies. And did no isolation, which was my fatal mistake.

Danielle was my favorite girl. This suntanned brunette had a charming smile and sparking eyes radiating happiness. I could sense her positive energy from a mile of distance. She was sending lots of indications of interest, being very talkative, asking personal questions, touching her hair… and our eye contact was inviting, to say the least.

All you need is isolation. Create the magical bubble between the two of you to move for the Comfort phase.

We did not engage in the intimate conversation necessary to move ahead into comfort. They had to catch their train and I had to go back home. We never saw each other again.

“Back to me”, I hear Mehow saying…

So, how is isolation done?

Mehow does not enter into detail in this section. There is just one explanation for that: it is simple. Just do it.

In my situation above, I could just tease Danielle saying “You’re great and I have to talk to you for a second. Will you guys allow us to talk for one minute over there?”

As I already opened the whole group subcommunicating my attractive qualities, I can say that with 95% of chances they would say yes. It would not be an obstacle.

One valuable tip from Get the Girl! is that to talk to the woman long enough to have a solid phone number, say at least 30 minutes, you need to “lock in”, which means sitting comfortably or leaning against a wall. Anywhere you can be comfortable.

This should be simple and it is so important. Write me with your experiences if you have difficulty doing the isolation. I will be pleased to give you any assistance to you.

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The large majority of pickup theories agree in one point: comfort is the most important phase of the attraction. That’s also what common sense tells us, and that is why the average guy approaches the girl trying to immediately get rapport with the lines “hi, how are you?”, “what do you like to do on the weekends” and so on.

What is wrong in these examples?

Maybe if your are Brad Pitt you can start with rapport… otherwise, pay attention to the order of things: first the opening, then the attraction and finally isolate to build comfort

The opening, attraction and isolation phases are necessary, even they may look weird. They are useful in allowing your entry to the comfort stage.

According to Mystery (and seconded by Mehow) the ideal comfort phase lasts from 4 to 10 hours. It is possible to accelerate this, by doing hypnosis, NLP commands or using other strategies, such as RSD’s Shock and Awe, all of which will be soon explored in detail here.

However, one word of warning: first, it is important that you learn how to do the regular 4 to 10 hour comfort. Only then you will be ready to use accelerators when appropriate. I personally do NOT recommend it.

The reason is that I know many people who used accelerators and almost all of them relate that they felt bad, heavily depressed and did not have any satisfaction. They report that on the day after, the women feel guilty about having intimacy with someone they did not have comfort with. Obviously this hardly leads to a healthy relationship. So they start to avoid seeing each other.

So what is the comfort phase about?

Well, it is where you finally get to know her!

Have you ever heard the expression “social mask”? The social mask is used in different contexts. In the family circle, we use one, which is different from the social mask at the office, which is different from the social mask at the gym and so on.

In the nightlife, even when having fun, that gorgeous girl can be wearing the “I’m a bitch and I just came here to dance” social mask. This does not mean at all she is a cold insensible party girl. That is not her – it is her social mask!

Understand that this is just a social mask, and that she is probably a lovely person to get to know. But you have to be able to do the comfort stage properly. The next posts will explore how Mehow recommends doing it.

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In Get the Girl! Nightlife edition, Mehow gives simple and clear examples of PureKino: the Group 3-7, the San Francisco Handshake and Group Hug Education. I strongly recommend you to check not only the original Get the Girl! eBook but also Get the Girl! Infield Exposed in DVD to see how Mehow delivers these routines. The secret is always in the delivery, and not so much in the material itself.

The scripted routines shall be your training wheels - do not be ashamed of using them… for a while

In fact, in the beginning it is recommended that you do not alter the routine from the book – so, if you do not get consistent results, this means your delivery is not calibrated. Work first on having your “canned routine” well delivered, and then start your own personalized material. Remember the discussion on being natural vs. running scripted routines.

Ok, now I feel ready to develop my own routines, how do I do it?

Pay attention to “Group 3-7”, “San Francisco Handshake” and “Group Hug Education”. What do all of them have in common?

- you touch everybody in the mood described by the direction box transmitting many attractive qualities

- you are teaching something cool to the group, being dominant and friendly

- you start to get compliance from the group to do things with an unexpected outcome, creating suspense and curiosity

- you get buying temperature spikes

These are the main ingredients of the Pure Kino routines. So you can run this checklist on your new ideas and make sure you have them in the right measure.

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Honestly, this concept was somehow new to me and I had to read this section many times. And I still did not get it very well. I’ve been going out twice a week and practicing Pure Kino™, still with weak results. But time and practice will fix this.

Pure Kino: Always touch everybody being friendly and dominant

The perspective that Mehow presents is that you must be super fun, bringing a lot of value to the set with very high energy. I seem to start to understand this concept now and will probably be editing this post as my practice of the Mehow Model gets better.

You know when you are afraid of approaching because your mind keeps saying things like “oh, they are in the middle of some conversation – probably a chick talk about work or some guy… well… I do not want to go there and interrupt… that may be rude and I will not be welcome… better wait a little”. Have you also had this type of though or was it just me?

If you can relate to what I have just described, then you have to read this direction box from Mehow fifty thousand times until you fully incorporate it. You are the value giver. You are fun! They will love to be cut by you. As Mehow explains, you are dominating in a friendly and fun way. That’s it. Go do it!

What is Pure Kino™?

I did not fully grasp in the first read what was the difference of Pure Kino™ and other types of kino. Besides from the normal touches on everybody in the group that are part of kino, Mehow explains that it is necessary to have a second element: subcommunicating that you live in your own reality, which is a very wild and fun one!

Given this introduction, the basic formula is provided for the standard interaction:

1. address the whole group with some time constraint (e.g. “you guys seem interesting and I came here to know you… for a second”)
2. be light and fun teasing the target girl (similar to Mystery’s ‘negs’ but with less chances of being misinterpreted)
3. do one past/future adventures projection
4. do one or two PureKino™ routines
5. isolate the girl from the group (here you may need the help of a friend or just explicitly tell the group you will be going with the girl over there and checking if everyone is cool with that)
6. move to the comfort phase

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Stories

Mehow is a results-oriented pick up artist. He does agree that storytelling in the classic Mystery Method can be used for attraction, through DHVs – Demonstrations of Higher Value, which shall be embedded in the story (and not the central piece of the story) to subcommunicate the attractive qualities. But he knows that the nightlife has way too many distracters. Unless you make a very powerful first impression with your looks or something really unconventional, she can easily divert her attention to something else.

Bad storytelling: Once upon a time there were three little pigs, so I ate them. End of story. Now Go to sleep.

Get the Girl! is not a material to be used to improve skills in storytelling. The section on stories is relatively short to additional material is necessary in case you are not a good storyteller. Mehow keeps it simple by providing three points of good stories:

• do not use an attractive quality as the main theme
• instead, the attractive qualities shall be discretely added in the story
• lots of different strong emotions such as love, hatred, humor, suspense

Future and Past Projections

Future and Past Adventures

Note that the length of the routine shall be adequate to the level of attention and distractions that you will have. A loud club with lots of acquaintances appearing from time to time is not a place for a long story as it is likely to be interrupted. A short routine should be used in such cases, such as the “Paris Hilton Chihuahua Carrier”

Pure Kino™

This is the patent-pending technology of Mehow. It’s worth being explored separately in a new post.

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The trinity of pickup: subcommunication, buying temperature and compliance

The trinity of pickup

In this section, as well as in many others, Mehow shows he did a very thoughtful exercise in theorizing and structuring his experiences and ideas about seduction in Get the Girl! Nightlife edition eBook. In a very practical way, he identifies that the three most important ingredients for attraction are:

1. Subcommunication of attractive qualities, already discussed;
2. Buying Temperature Spiking, an idea made popular by Tyler Durden; and
3. Compliance, one interesting idea from persuasion techniques which consist on escalating the willingness of the other person to comply with your requests. Start small (“please hold my drink”) then move upwards to getting physical, moving the girl to the bar, dance floor, lounge and finally extract from the venue.

In the next post, I’ll start to comment in detail the techniques for each one of these elements of the pickup trinity.

The tease

Now it’s time to set the frame of the interaction as demonstrating how social and fun you are. For this, Mehow proposes the use of Mystery’s ideas on teasing the target girl. Doing so, he says, makes her attracted to you and also causes her friends to think that you and the target are not getting along.

I have some restrictions regarding the second consideration. It all depends on the girls and how you deliver your teases, but in most cases girls are smarter than that. By teasing with the “you’re the coolest girl I’ve met… in the last 20 seconds” it’s quite clear that you are being flirty (of course it all depends on your voice tone and pacing, body language, eye contact…) – which is perfectly fine.

My point is that for me it is not essential to be super careful in not letting her friends know you are interested in the target. If it is noticed, it should be graceful, not try hard.

The problem with “choosing the target”

Choose your target and your weapons

For me, things are just a little more complicated than that. Oftentimes, from such group of 4 ladies, it may happen that 2 of them may perfectly be your number. How do you choose the target without even knowing anything else about them other than their looks?

In these cases, I just keep that in mind and keep playing the game as if I had two targets. After some minutes of interaction it will become clear to me which one is the most interesting one.

Microcalibration

This is a section in the eBook that ideally should not be necessary. That’s why it’s a good thing that Mehow added it, showing he is aware that many of us folks out there need the obvious to be said from time to time.

In my life, I’ve seen all types of people going out and socializing. And, being a good observer, I could not help but feel embarrassed by certain folks who really lack social skills. Some of them shake hands with you and look to their feet. Others are totally obnoxious dudes. Some never listen, they only talk. Others shoot the “sorry, what’s your name again” question five times during the interaction.

All this is related to microcalibration. If someone is nice to you, be nice back – and even just a little more. Give value. But do not try hard, just be cool.

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Direction boxes make you feel like the star

However, the quick reader may not be able to fully grasp the concepts and those unfamiliar with self development literature may have difficulty in understanding and applying these concepts. As mentioned, Get the Girl! is best recommended for those with intermediate seduction skills familiar with the Mystery Method, but that does not mean that the newbies will also be able to extract great value from the eBook.

In talking the basics of attraction, Mehow agrees with the majority of PUA literature in recognizing that women will not be interested in having a real conversation with you unless you demonstrate value first. It may happen, but not consistently.

One very good realization by Mehow is that attraction shall be as fast and strong as possible because of the chaotic environment of the bar or club you will meet the girl (remember, this is the “nightlife edition” – a nice indicator that perhaps “Get the Girl – Daytime edition” may soon be released!). The solution for that is PureKino, Mehow’s technology to be used just after opening a set. With this, Mehow proudly states that he keeps the attraction phase in tight 3 minutes.

Kino Pinging

Before going to the details of PureKino, some other concepts are presented, such as Kino Pinging. This is something I constantly see men who are naturally good with women doing: just touching everybody whenever you talk to them. The original concept of Kino Pinging in the Mehow Model is to be “totally non sexual way” and also brief and light, with some escalation (first a knuckle tap, then touching with the palm of the hand, then holding her hand as you tell her something). Being subtle and discreet allows many positive things happen to your favor, such as keeping her unsure of your interest and also making her feel comfortable in front of her friends.

No rule is absolute however. Instead of understanding any advice as a rule, it is better to see them as guidelines and adapt them according to your personality. Thus, I would also include that if you want to play less smooth and be more direct, go for The Claw. The idea of escalating is very good for using the law of familiarity (if you tapped before, a quick touch will not be so unfamiliar, and will open space for holding hands, then a hug… etc), however if the frame of escalation is noticed, then this may have negative effects such as some defense as the girl will expect that you will try to advance more.

On the other hand, kinoing directly with The Claw or other stronger kino movement sets from the right beginning the frame that you are a confident man who has all the attractive qualities mentioned by Mehow. Plus, it establishes strong sexual tension. Try both ways and see which one goes better for you: advancing subtly or going direct.

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Elegant. Simple, but well designed. This is the Mehow opening structure. When I first saw the videos of Mehow in action opening sets saying “woooooohooooo” I could not believe what my eyes were watching and thought the guy was nuts. But then I realized how brilliant he is, and also honest in giving the right credits for pointing out that Tyler Durden from RSD was the first person in the pickup community to notice that such simple opener conveys being high-energy, positive and fun.

Another similarity with Tyler Durden is that Mehow also strongly recommends the reading of The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle for becoming fully present, and not inside one’s own head and unable to enjoy the moment and be social.

Mehow knows his opening phase is elegant. In his words, it is the “easiest bar and club opening system on the planet”. Indeed, the lines are short and easy to remember. The delivery does not have much complexity – apart from the classic recommendations on paying attention to body language, eye contact and voice tone, he gives nice advice such as walking in a straight line and moving people and small objects in your way, thus conveying power.

Valuable advice is also provided on social dynamics, and Mehow commands that the loudest girl in the group being approached has to be the one to be teased, which communicates social savvy.

I like the opening in the Mehow model because the opener content is irrelevant. There is no need to use a complex opener which can only make things complicated. What is said in the opener becomes easily forgotten after some minutes of interaction and the important thing is to actually DO the opening. It is infinitely better to have a simple opener done than a complex opener never done. And here comes another point, on approach anxiety: not only the mentioned The Power of Now is recommended, but also the program Ultimate Inner Game by Hypnotica.

Negs v. the Love/Hate Tease

In contrast to Mystery Method’s negging, Mehow advocates the use of the Love/Hate Tease, combining IOIs with IODs. This way, one nice compliment is balanced with some nasty tease, making it a playful communication without the burden of “too much” being communicated. The IOI can be substituted by a touch (kino), to which Mehow calls the Kino Tease. This is a powerful move and in my experience is very important to be used in the first minutes of the interaction, setting the frame that you naturally a touchy feely person and will not cause strange feelings when later you escalate on touching in the next phases.

False time constraint: Hey... I have to get back to my friends... but get this...

Finally, another important piece in the opening is the false time constraint, made popular by Style, which is simply telling you have to leave soon. This gives the necessary comfort to the set to stop thinking how long you will stay in the set.
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On being natural vs. using pre-scripted material

I do not wanna be a social robot!

One point that I strongly agree with Mehow is that the debate on being natural v. using pre-scripted routines is irrelevant. The man who is interested in becoming a more interesting social person has to keep an open mind to learn new skills and do things differently from what he has been doing his entire life. Learning some canned material as a training wheel can only bring benefits when properly used.

The Mehow Model

After this brief general theory, Mehow introduces the structure of his model. It is a very simple one, consisting of four phases:

1) Opening (15 seconds), when the conversation starts;
2) Attraction (3 minutes), attracting the attention of the woman you are interested in (the “target”) and also befriending her friends;
3) Isolation, which to me does not exactly seem to be a phase, but rather one movement that is necessary to isolate the target from her friends and work on the fourth phase;
4) Comfort, where the most important work is done.

Get the Girl! also makes heavy use of terms coined by pickup gurus Mystery and Lovedrop such as “IOIs – Indicators of Interest” and “IODs – Indicators of Disinterest”.

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Get the Girl! Nightlife edition eBook

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This is the first of a series of texts examining the eBook “Get the Girl! Nightlife Edition – A Pickup Artist’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Love Life” by Mehow. A critical examination of the book is presented and a general product overview is presented in the last post – enjoy!

Chapter 1
Pickup Theory

The 30 attractive qualities of men

Mehow starts by listing 30 attractive qualities that the women look for in men. He does so by using short descriptions of each of these qualities as bullet points. There is not the intention of going deep into each of the concepts, some of which may not be easy to be grasped by the beginner, but which are quite familiar by those already familiar with the self-development and seduction community.

The reason Mehow does not go into detail is simple: first, it could take one entire book to properly explore each of these attractive qualities into detail. Second, he expressly recognizes that such is a “long list of stuff to master” and that his method is an easy and quick one to display such elements by using communication and subcommunication techniques.

Do looks matter?

Do looks matter?

While there is lots of truth in this statement, one important consideration that has to be added is that looks can matter in your inner game. In other words: a man with low self-esteem because he believes himself not to be good-looking enough will have difficulty in taking action and subcommunicate confidence.

In this section Mehow gives props to David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating and other seduction products, for his famous quote “Attraction is not a choice”. The interpretation of this statement, by Mehow, is that attraction will naturally happen with the right skills to subcommunicate qualities in the emotional level – and not the logical one, which guys should stay away from!

Methodology

Get the Girl! is solid material. Mehow does not use marketing strategies to oversell his method. It is clear that it is necessary to read the entire material and then consistently practice each of the steps gradually until the results in about six months by going out 3 times a week. In my own experience, this is a very realistic period of time if theory is really applied into practice – and maybe Mehow was even conservative, because if the guy is actually putting the method into practice consistently at least 3 times a week, for many cases the results will appear in less than 6 months.

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